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  1. What you bought this week

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    So it's my birthday today, and I was bored.... so I went out and bought (let it not be said that I only get stuff free :P ) myself this little gift:

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    The ultimate driving machine :D

     

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    Custom ordered new as per my requirements, coming soon from Munich ;)

     

    This is gonna be my first car and my first BMW.

     

    Yes, picture ain't mine (apologies) but will have to do until it gets here in a few weeks.

     

     

    may you get this bored often... Cheers buddy..

     

    Though Me not BMW fan.. blah!! :notangel:

  6. Heart broken ppl's club

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    Megz Bhabhi.. +1 Kasam se... :D

     

    Marriage or a relationship (or even LIFE for that matter) DOES NOT COME with a guarantee card !!!

    Things work out.. things get screwed up.. and this is what we call life :)

     

     

    Ye toh ekdum Preity Zinta ki si kisi film ka title rakh diya aapne .. papa kasam :D

     

     

    Papa kasam..megz bhabhi sun ke hansi hi nahi ruk rahi hai.. :lol:

  9. Heart broken ppl's club

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    Posted · Edited by megzworld

    Less cringing more introspection ma'm. Sorry for generalization but when i see these kind of preachy posts all i hear "Here, look at me, I want eveyone to have a free and open minded spirit but damn if that open mindedness is not aligned to my definition of freedom".

     

    Its good to allow people to follow what they believe in, and not blindly go by what their elders tell them, but at its extreme is dismissing somone's beliefs as archaic and loony because they dont fit in the "modern" ideology even though the they themselves are at ease with it; and frankly, that is just asinine. Seriously, how can some one say some cultural norms are baseless taboos if the person subjected to them voluntarily accepts it (and ofcourse, provided the norms arent hurting anyone, so dont assume that i am advocating stuff like Sati).

     

    This is just akin to west taking it upon itself to 'liberate' asian women from burka/purdah, with a straight line assumption that every woman covering herself is being forced against her will. Its a conflict and lack of understanding of cultures and can best be represented by-

     

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    Wow..looks like my views expressed here really hurt your sentiments. Yes, I am a free spirited opinionated woman which again is taboo in many societies and may be people like you believe that women like to keep there mouth shut, do not voice there opinion, would not like to embrace freedom to dress the way she wants, travel to the place she wants, choose the career she wants and marry the man she loves ..but It may not always be their choice. Many a times it s the way they are conditioned to behave, believe and act. I for one, do not agree with that for a girl or even for a boy. For example, a daughter of a prostitute may think that it is natural for her to sell her body for money, but do you advocate that? Is it healthy? Do you think that is the purpose for her birth? Someone has to show her a way and give her power to better her life.

     

    Parents are responsible to give us good upbringing, bring us opportunities to learn and grow and definitely teach us our culture and values. Once they do that, they must trust there upbringing, and respect our choice as adults. We as there children should respect them, support them and take care of them in the best way possible. But one cannot confuse respect and obedience with self sacrifice to pacify unreasonable demands and control.

     

    I just wanted to convey simply the following, which you felt preachy..but thats ok.

     

    a) Choose a life partner on their values, personality, character and potential. See if you two are compatible, can be friends, be fun and can be yourself in each other's company. If that is achieved- caste, religion, age (reasonable difference, not 20 marries 50), nationality and past relationship status are secondary.

     

    B) If you really love a person who loves you equally and is committed to be with you go all out or them. If that means hard times with your or her parents, breaking social stigma or doing something that may require breaking a few hearts..Do it. Things will turn in your favor eventually if the love and intentions are pure. Forget love, I would even suggest the same for the career of your choice which you feel you are born to do..

     

    c) There is no guarantee in any marriage- love or arranged. People find love in arranged marriage and many loose love even after marrying someone they believed they loved a lot. But, if you have something special, take a chance..it may lead to heartbreak..but guess what, it may even work and bring you lifetime of happiness.. Ishq is Risk anyway

     

    d) Do not hurt your parents but do not also hurt that person who has placed her love and faith on you . Before or after marriage. Every woman deserves a guy who will love her, provide for her, be loyal and sincere to her, look after her and stand up for her. Be that man!

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  11. Heart broken ppl's club

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    For me as a person, this is enough. I would willingly, and open heartedly marry a widow, or a divorcee if I fell in love with her. But we live in a cruel society. I will be black listed which i do not care for too. But it will lead my parents to undergo a lot of shame, irritation, frustration and disappointment. I can be happy with my newly wed wife, and what not, but my parents will meet people everyday, and everyday people will ask "Your son married a divorcee? Why?" . My parents will nt be able to answer that, and at this stage of their lives, this is something which I do nt want to put them thro.

     

    If I was an American, where in their society, you select the girl, and "invite" your parents to your wedding, then there is no problem.

     

    Hope I've not crossed some line with this post, but this is the way I see this backward Indian society.

     

     

    Good thinking. But parents come around if they see determination and love in their children. Besides, would you rather live your life with a perfect match from parent's manual only to find yourself bored after a point, nagged to death and worse have no common talking points? It's true that no kid should do things to bring shame to the family but obedience to the point of self sabotage is not healthy as well.

     

    And "what will people say" is the most duh thing to decide on anything in your life right from what to wear to which profession to whom to marry.. NEVERRRR!!

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  12. Heart broken ppl's club

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    Joe, no.

    Like Barath said, it would never work out in my family.

    It's better to know things earlier, than be sorry later.

     

     

    No offence but I cringe to see youngsters resonating grandma's mindset.. Okay there are many things taboo in our society but we are the generation of today and we can decide not to follow baseless taboos. If you find a partner that completes you at many levels, then age, weight, caste, creed, nationality or even past relationship status like divorcee/widow are mere factual details good to be filled on forms. I have seen some awesome relationships between older women and younger male and vice versa, some very kickass marriages between couples from very diverse background and so called not perfect checklist..but they made it because they were compatible on more softer grounds.

     

    It's funny that one would even approach a girl who you have met at a pretty routine set up like an office (not shaadi.com) and would check pointers like age and stuff. One must definitely let the brain work but let instincts rule. Allow yourself to like a person without judging them on the basis of preconditioned, perfect age, color of skin, weight and family background.

     

    Just what I think and believe in..

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  13. Movie Discussion Thread

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    Watched Kai Po Che.. Really liked it.

     

    I have read 3 mistakes of my life and even though Chetan Bhagat is not the greatest writer alive, his stories somewhere do touch a chord. But kudos to directer Abhishek kaoor for bringing the characters to life and fabulously so.. If you liked DCH, 3 idiots, Rock on.. chances are you will like this one too.

    The mmovie keeps you staring at the screen, with interest and emotions. Never a dull moment or unnecessary song sequence. The three leads are a revelation. Rajkumar Yadav, Amit Sadh and Sushant Singh Rajput are truly refreshing and play their part so well.. Sushant is really handsome and that's the cherry on this wonderful cake. You guys might like the cuteness personified Amrita Puri who also stands on her own two sweet feet very well.

     

    ​In short, don't miss this one.

     

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  17. Heart broken ppl's club

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    Ok here's what happened.

     

    On Monday:

    Her birthday was on Monday, got to know that after she shared cake with everyone on the floor, so I went and wished her personally sometime in the evening,

    she smiled and said thank you and I just came back, since everyone was around and wasn't a good time to talk.

     

    On Wednesday:

    I went to office on Wednesday a bit early, so I could talk to her for sometime without anyone interrupting us.(This was probably the 6th time I am talking to her)

     

    I started off by asking her about what she did on her birthday and why she came to office instead off taking a day off and celebrating it.

    She replied saying that her close friend passed away a week ago and that she wasn't in the mood to celebrate, and the cake was because of some friends at office forced her.

    Me not knowing how to react to this, stayed awkwardly silent for a couple of seconds, and then asked her frickin year of birth.(Dafuq did I do that for!? First screw UP!)

    She kinda snubbed me off saying that it is a tricky question and said something about she shares her birthdate with the creator of Batman.

    On hearing Batman, I was like, "You like Batman!!?" She said yes!! (First thing that attracted me towards her was because she loves watching movies, and now the GODDAMN BATMAN!)

     

    The conversation went on for sometime on Batman/movies, and in this I learnt that she owns several comics books of batman such as the The Dark Kinght Returns/Killing Joke etc., and is even more

    a bigger fanatic than I will ever be! (She is every guy's dream girl, isn't she now!?, At least that's how I felt at that moment)

     

    So this is where I screwed up for the second time, she got a message and took her phone out, me seeing her phone, instinctively asked for her number.

    She snubbed me off again, saying, she doesn't use the phone much, and it's only because her office mates insisted her to carry a phone.(FML!)

     

    It's over isn't it.!?

     

    Well at least the story isn't over.

     

    I only realized lately, that I was so dumb and desperate in asking her number, even after what she told me about losing her friend.

    I had to fix this, so the next morning again on thursday, went in early and sat next to her to apologize, she got a call(talk about timing man!!)

    She walked away to the lobby to take it.

    I waited for around 5 mins, she didn't come back, I left a note saying, I'll talk to her later.

     

    I felt shitty for what I did, so went again in the evening to her, and said, "sorry for acting like an a*s yesterday for asking your number, even after what you've been through recently"

    She said, "Oh, no problem, I forgot about it"

    I asked, "So all ok!?"

    She said, "Yeah!"

    Then I walked away.

     

    At least I feel better now after apologizing.

    Although, I don't quite feel sad for the fact that I 've almost blown it.

    Guess am not that into her and she not into me too (or) she has a date already. :mellow:

     

     

    Dafuq!?

     

     

    Uh Oh so it is not good news at all.. Here are the sins you committed,

     

    1. Asked her year of birth??? U serious..you should have followed it up by asking her weight and she would have given you the rudest of all looks possible! Never ever ask a woman her YEAR of BIRTH!!

    2. You are very clearly trying to win her interest which is a very bad sign. As I earlier mentioned, try not to puppy around..

    3. If you have snubbed her, stay that way for a while..do not apologies right away. At least she would think you are arrogant.. that's still sexier than needy

     

    If you really like I a girl, tell yourself that you are hot, Casanova.. even batman.. that you are what she needs. Approach her with this attitude and good manners and chance are you will win her date or details.. many guys screw their chances because they so want the acceptance that they stop behaving like a guy and more like a lamb hoping Mary would cary them along.. so, just man up.. relax, wear that awesome cologne, get a manicure, avoid garlic and onion and ooze style and charm.

     

    Best of luck for next time..

     

    BTW, you can still joke with her and not talk anything personal to cool the matter of for the time being.Try again after a week may be.

  21. Heart broken ppl's club

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    Ok, first time I am asking for advice, been in several relationships thus far, all broken.

    But this time I don't wanna botch it.

     

    There is this girl at work(2D Designer), who joined in recently.

    Fortunately I was made to work along with her on a little project, this gave me a good chance to speak with her.

    Till date I have spoken to her for at least half a dozen times, I use work as a reason to start a conversation and then talked about

    her native place, new job, her interest in movies, etc.

     

    Her interests in movies is what got my attention, I haven't seen a girl, who likes watching movies so much, like I do.

    I have no idea if she's into me or not, but she talks well with me (of the few minutes I've spent with her inside office)

    And I have no idea if she's already got a date.

     

    Questions:

    I would really like to ask her out, is it too early to do it? (I don't even have her number, don't no how to directly ask :(, and this one time

    I asked her if she comes online(fb, gtalk), she said no. Did she snub me off? Although as far as I searched over the internet, it seems true, I couldn't find a single trace of her on the internet)

     

    Should I just ask about her relationship status in a playful manner, before I ask her out?

     

    Or should I try to get her number first and get to know her better before asking her out?

     

     

    Help me guys!! :D

     

     

    Hi There,

     

    It's awesome that you are on the Kuch Kuch hota hai way, but there is a possibility that this girl you like is nice to you because,

     

    a) You are her collegue

    B) she is new and your friendship is valuable at this time

    c) Every girl like a guy at work who has hots for her..Great for getting stuff done and amazing for self confidence..

     

    But, there is also a possibility of a future only if you take it slow and behave professional yet friendly, weird and sometimes even aloof. Girls love guys who are not easily achievable. Those who run around them like puppies are good to go for a drive with, coffee or movie, but not relationship..you know what I mean?

     

    I am a girl and recently got married to a very eligible bachelor after rejecting quite a few good/bad/great /ugly guys over all these years so trust what I write here..

     

    - Use humor and a lot of it. Hansi to phansi is kinda true..

    - Flirt with other girls, or tell her how someone else in the office looks awesome

    - Be moody.. there is something very sexy about unpredictable guys..

    -Then tell her casually if her BF is also as interested in movies like she is.. she will clarify her relationship status right then, and you wont look needy

    -And since you are at work, and there are sexual harassment policy in your HR Manual..tread safe.

     

    All the best!

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  22. Heart broken ppl's club

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    @ Okami. -- Painful as it may sound, IVG is definitely not the place to share your sorrows man. For that we have a special place called Bars. You know dingy places with low lights, papads, chana, chutner, beer and friends? Try that, works like a charm ..

     

    Not true. Main Hoon na

  24. Heart broken ppl's club

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    Haha.. Anyway I'm trying to get over her.. Don't want to imagine stuff related to her

     

    Sent from my Samsung Galaxy S3

     

    Hi eggmen,

     

    Hugs. I do understand what you must be going through. So it was good, there were expectations gap and it came to an end. Remember her for the good times. Keep your chin up. What rock said hold good intentions and commitment and courage from both the partners, in your case I get a feeling that the girl never wanted to try out too hard. Whatever it us, I am sure it is best for you both. You will realize it in retrospect.

     

    Accept that you are single. Make a list of all the stuff you are passionate about and give it a go. Enroll yourself in a gym. Release your pent up anger and hurt in those push ups and weights. Not only will you get adrenaline rush you will also look awesome.. And many hot girls in the gym will sure wanna hang out with a hunk.. What say?

     

    You are young. Focus on getting a new job preferably in a new location. Love yourself, love all the things you want and go achieve them. When time is right, you will find the girl who deserves you.

     

    All the best!

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