Django_3101 Posted September 12, 2011 Report Share Posted September 12, 2011 I only met 1 guy from this thread who is married and been shifted to Bangalore some months before.... The person is right above me! We met @ Tony Montana's shop.... He's doing well I guess after marriage.. From wat i can recollect, though its some months back! @Django: How'z ur Kid doing ? he is doing fine bro... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bulovski Posted September 12, 2011 Report Share Posted September 12, 2011 My password was stolen. Everything I post here may be false. ^^ This is laying groundwork for indemnity later. ^^^^ This is learnt as soon as you marry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
piper Posted September 12, 2011 Author Report Share Posted September 12, 2011 My password was stolen. Everything I post here may be false. ^^ This is laying groundwork for indemnity later. ^^^^ This is learnt as soon as you marry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
outsider Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 Piper you sound so excited about SB, i was just teasing Snake and he is not even married.. Bhabhiji ko pata hai kya?? Anyway, that brings me to my question of the day to married folks. Do you think your partner is possessive? How do you handle her? Is it possible to have close friendship (platonic) with other girl even after marriage.. You thinki, your spouse will approve of it? How comfortable are you with your wive's guy friends?? If you're concerned about your wives' guy friends, I think it's only fair that each of your wives are concerned about the other wives in your life. What say? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
piper Posted September 13, 2011 Author Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 If you're concerned about your wives' guy friends, I think it's only fair that each of your wives are concerned about the other wives in your life. What say? By other wives in our lives you mean other women, right? And yeah, the concern/jealousy works both ways. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
outsider Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 By other wives in our lives you mean other women, right? And yeah, the concern/jealousy works both ways. No. Attempt at lame joke fail. Wives = plural. Wife's = appropriate statement (in Megz' comment). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
megzworld Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 My password was stolen. Everything I post here may be false. ^^ This is laying groundwork for indemnity later. ^^^^ This is learnt as soon as you marry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Boss Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 Do you think your partner is possessive? How do you handle her? Is it possible to have close friendship (platonic) with other girl even after marriage.. You thinki, your spouse will approve of it? How comfortable are you with your wive's guy friends?? Yeah, somewhat. But there has been no situation where she was overly possesive. But she will when such situation arises. What do you mean handle her? I dont want to have any kind of new friendship with any girl, why should I? There are female friends who are already friends, I dont see myself making a new friendship with any girl. It will not make any sense at this stage of my life. Dont think so. Professional relationships due to work place is acceptable, but going out of the way and being friends with a girl makes no sense when you are already married. I am very comfortable. But mostly our friends are common, and obviously she doesn't make new ones or doesn't feel the need to make new ones. IMO, if you have a need to make new friends of opposite sex after a love marriage, something is wrong or is going to be wrong. Maintaining friendship with older friends should not cause any issue. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
outsider Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 Yeah, somewhat. But there has been no situation where she was overly possesive. But she will when such situation arises. What do you mean handle her? I dont want to have any kind of new friendship with any girl, why should I? There are female friends who are already friends, I dont see myself making a new friendship with any girl. It will not make any sense at this stage of my life. Dont think so. Professional relationships due to work place is acceptable, but going out of the way and being friends with a girl makes no sense when you are already married. I am very comfortable. But mostly our friends are common, and obviously she doesn't make new ones or doesn't feel the need to make new ones. IMO, if you have a need to make new friends of opposite sex after a love marriage, something is wrong or is going to be wrong. Maintaining friendship with older friends should not cause any issue. Really? Friends are friends regardless of gender. I don't see how becoming friends with someone of the opposite gender is any more indicative of something wrong in a relationship any more than becoming friends with someone of the same gender. My friends are my friends - male or female, the act of friendship in and of itself does not mean that I want to sleep with them. I don't quite understand the reasoning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Big Boss Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 (edited) Really? Friends are friends regardless of gender. I don't see how becoming friends with someone of the opposite gender is any more indicative of something wrong in a relationship any more than becoming friends with someone of the same gender. My friends are my friends - male or female, the act of friendship in and of itself does not mean that I want to sleep with them. I don't quite understand the reasoning. I have many female friends, I talk with them, chat with them etc etc. But none of them are NEW, the ones after the marriage. Why should I go and do a friendship with any girl now similar to my older friends? Why will my wife accept that? There is a girl in my office, in my team. I chat with her daily, wish her birthday, she does the same to me, we chat on facebook, discuss movies, but that doesn't make her my "friend". We are just colleagues or acquintances. Edited September 13, 2011 by ambar_hitman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
outsider Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 I have many female friends, I talk with them, chat with them etc etc. But none of them are NEW, the ones after the marriage. Why should I go and do a friendship with any girl now similar to my older friends? Why will my wife accept that? There is a girl in my office, in my team. I chat with her daily, wish her birthday, she does the same to me, we chat on facebook, discuss movies, but that doesn't make her my "friend". We are just colleagues or acquintances. Does that mean you don't make any new male friends who are similar to your older friends also? If you're friends, what's there not to accept? Male or female, it's about being friends right (as distinct from fraands). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
outsider Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 PS: Not judging/criticising your viewpoint, just trying to understand it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Boss Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 Does that mean you don't make any new male friends who are similar to your older friends also? Nope. I have made new male friends. But some kind of jealousy will come up (especially if my new female friend is hot), so I will stay away. And she knows me well, she will surely guess that friendship had something to do with her hotness more than anything else. Men will always be men etc etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HarishProGamer Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 Really? Friends are friends regardless of gender. I don't see how becoming friends with someone of the opposite gender is any more indicative of something wrong in a relationship any more than becoming friends with someone of the same gender. My friends are my friends - male or female, the act of friendship in and of itself does not mean that I want to sleep with them. I don't quite understand the reasoning. Aye M8, we can say these things and we know how to maintain these. Well, we don't have any probs. in maintaining friendship with opposite gender.... BUT Its not an easy job to convince the society and people around u to say that its nothing going btwn you & her........ The Sad Fact! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
megzworld Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 Personally, If in a relationship the partners have trust and know the gravity of their feelings and are secure mostly it would not matter if they have attractive friends in opposite sex. Like if I am sure that my guy has eyes only for me, and there are other hot girls around and he is with me, I would rather feel blessed than jealous. On the other hand, if my guy is emotionally very involved with another friend of his, who is a female, I guess that would make me uncomfortable. Flirting or having a good time is natural and is no big deal as long as you know you are loyal to each other. But if your spouse is emotionally very close to someone else and who has an influence on him and his decisions, well that can ring my J bells. It can make me jealous even if he/she is male or female. For me emotional attachments are more deep than just casual physical attraction and honestly I would like my guy to be emotionally very attached to me as a companion, as a friend, as a guide and as a life-partner. As for just being "friends". It doesn't matter. I am "friends" with many great guys most of who are engaged or married and that does not change anything. Tomorrow, if I get married I will not suddenly stop being friends to them. Same applies to my partner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Boss Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 Personally, If in a relationship the partners have trust and know the gravity of their feelings and are secure mostly it would not matter if they have attractive friends in opposite sex. Like if I am sure that my guy has eyes only for me, and there are other hot girls around and he is with me, I would rather feel blessed than jealous. On the other hand, if my guy is emotionally very involved with another friend of his, who is a female, I guess that would make me uncomfortable. Flirting or having a good time is natural and is no big deal as long as you know you are loyal to each other. But if your spouse is emotionally very close to someone else and who has an influence on him and his decisions, well that can ring my J bells. It can make me jealous even if he/she is male or female. For me emotional attachments are more deep than just casual physical attraction and honestly I would like my guy to be emotionally very attached to me as a companion, as a friend, as a guide and as a life-partner. As for just being "friends". It doesn't matter. I am "friends" with many great guys most of who are engaged or married and that does not change anything. Tomorrow, if I get married I will not suddenly stop being friends to them. Same applies to my partner. ^Well put, I wanted to convey the same thoughts, but I am not very good with the words. The bolded parts are what I think exactly with obvious gender changes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
outsider Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 My perspective on the emotionally close friendship question is that I wouldn't want to be my partner's sole emotional support. That would be far too heavy a burden on the relationship. I'd definitely want him to have people other than me to go to, particularly in terms of the relationship itself. Whether that's an old friend or someone who becomes a friend afterwards is neither here nor there. You develop bonds with people at all stages of life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
outsider Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 (edited) Dp Edited September 13, 2011 by outsider Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
megzworld Posted September 13, 2011 Report Share Posted September 13, 2011 My perspective on the emotionally close friendship question is that I wouldn't want to be my partner's sole emotional support. That would be far too heavy a burden on the relationship. I'd definitely want him to have people other than me to go to, particularly in terms of the relationship itself. Whether that's an old friend or someone who becomes a friend afterwards is neither here nor there. You develop bonds with people at all stages of life. Hmm.. That's nice.. But I am kinda girly in things like these.. i dont even like Yvonne too much Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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