AMG Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 ^ not appropriate to use here. :| +1 and surprised to see people having a laugh over it...that was a sensible advice given by megz,and even if it did not make sense to you...you should be more careful with your words...thats not the way to talk to a lady Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Right Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Bah. I thought it crossed the line. I don't think the expression has to be taken literally. Still using it to show that you disagree with someone...is bit crass, especially when that person is a girl, aint it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pixeljunkie Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 (edited) Anyway, the worst case scenario is what I have faced yesterday. I came across this really beautiful and sweet girl a few days back and she drops a bombshell yesterday when she said that she thinks she is not good enough for me . It is very hard to get out of this situation as you have to be very careful with your choice of words. You can't just say simply that you are not as good as she thinks you are and you just have to keep putting it in her head that she is better than what she thinks of herself. Let's see how long this takes. Since she isn't indian, then maybe she's telling you the truth? Give her the benefit of the doubt and move on. There's no denying that sticking around trying to boost her confidence is very supportive and considerate, but i sense frustration from your post, which isn't a good sign. Also to most guys here... good luck following Megz's advice of waiting for a girl who meets your emotional wavelengths, is fun to be with, isn't after your money, always makes you happy and loves you for who you are. Chances are you won't get someone with all these qualities together and if you do, well you are delusional. Just have fun and enjoy life. Find a girl who wants to have fun with you and then have fun with each other and try stuff. Make sure you meet her friends before you are getting bored with her and introduce her to your friends as well. Continue this cycle and enjoy life. People can judge me all they want but I don't care. I have ended almost every thing on a good note and I make it clear what I want out of a 'relationship' instead of lying, etc which people do when trying to get in to a perfect relationship. I know many. Oh and yeah, most girls, specially Indians, are very superficial and that is a fact. Being around with girls from other countries and Indian girls, I believe to be in a good position to state this than some people here who 'claim' otherwise. As for Indian guys, many of them are real assholes too. But the thing is there are some very nice guys whom I have met and after a breakup, the girls keep telling their friends what an 'a*s' that guy was. It's pretty . Same things happen other way around. So at the end of the day, if you are below 25 and looking to settle down with a girl forever, then good luck with that. My only suggestion would be to have fun and concentrate on your career. Girls will come and go, but your career won't. And once you are successful, multiply your success rate with girls by 2x Ummm...nasty post-breakup politics is common amongst all women and men included. Its just that in India, what a woman says cries out aloud carries greater weight because even today she's still worshiped and considered the epitome of purity Edited June 12, 2012 by pixeljunkie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Man In The Box Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 (edited) Since she isn't indian, then maybe she's telling you the truth? Give her the benefit of the doubt and move on. There's no denying that sticking around trying to boost her confidence is very supportive and considerate, but i sense frustration from your post, which isn't a good sign. Ya, I don't see why someone would lie about this. People here are pretty straight forward anyway. But I wanna get somewhere by this week, am confident something is going to happen. Edited June 12, 2012 by Avishkar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pixeljunkie Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Ya, I don't see why someone would lie about this. People here are pretty straight forward anyway. But I wanna somewhere by this week, am confident something is going to happen. Where? The movies, a game or in her bed? Personally, i feel that someone like yourself deserves to date women who are self-confident. And you know what they say about self-confident women? Right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Man In The Box Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Why shall people like me date self-confident women ? This girl is really different; and exciting at the same time. I haven't met someone of this type before and I wanna try to end it in a way that makes her feel better off herself but it could end up being worse too. It would be a good learning experience for me nevertheless. And what do they say about self-confident women? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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pixeljunkie Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Why shall people like me date self-confident women ? This girl is really different; and exciting at the same time. I haven't met someone of this type before and I wanna try to end it in a way that makes her feel better off herself but it could end up being worse too. It would be a good learning experience for me nevertheless. And what do they say about self-confident women? Why wouldn't you want to? You'd stand to save yourself the emotional blackmail. Ok. Good luck! Just don't forget that you're in a tricky position. If you haven't, Date a self-confident woman first and find out for yourself Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Man In The Box Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Haven't really 'dated' much recently but from experience, even the most self confident girls are very insecure once they are totally in their comfort zone. That's why I like easy going girls who like to have fun and don't care much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pixeljunkie Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Haven't really 'dated' much recently but from experience, even the most self confident girls are very insecure once they are totally in their comfort zone. That's why I like easy going girls who like to have fun and don't care much. Now i know for sure you're doing something wrong. From experience, women aren't insecure when a guy helps them settle into their comfort zone; i always thought they just get a lil'unneccessarily cautious around a guy who can put them in a vulnerable position I'd normally plant a kiss on their forehead, letting them know that there's nothing to be afraid of Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Man In The Box Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Yeah, I know its my problem. But i'm not really looking for that kind of relationship tbh yet. A kiss on the forehead would be wayyyy too serious imo; rather just have fun and leave. Thing is some girls go in as fun but then start thinking if this could be serious. Then I get scared and I guess in turn, they get scared too. Even in a relationship, I don't really wanna get to such a stage where I wanna comfort her. Ideally, when I settle down, I would wanna marry a lesbian. Then she won't be insecure and it would be a really nice and beautiful relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rohan Seth Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Agreed! What they want always changes. For a girl if you are good today, tomorrow someone else will be perfect. Sent from my GT-N7000 using Tapatalk 2 Yup. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rohan Seth Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Also to most guys here... good luck following Megz's advice of waiting for a girl who meets your emotional wavelengths, is fun to be with, isn't after your money, always makes you happy and loves you for who you are. Chances are you won't get someone with all these qualities together and if you do, well you are delusional. Just have fun and enjoy life. Find a girl who wants to have fun with you and then have fun with each other and try stuff. Make sure you meet her friends before you are getting bored with her and introduce her to your friends as well. Continue this cycle and enjoy life. People can judge me all they want but I don't care. I have ended almost every thing on a good note and I make it clear what I want out of a 'relationship' instead of lying, etc which people do when trying to get in to a perfect relationship. I know many. Oh and yeah, most girls, specially Indians, are very superficial and that is a fact. Being around with girls from other countries and Indian girls, I believe to be in a good position to state this than some people here who 'claim' otherwise. As for Indian guys, many of them are real assholes too. But the thing is there are some very nice guys whom I have met and after a breakup, the girls keep telling their friends what an 'a*s' that guy was. It's pretty . Same things happen other way around. So at the end of the day, if you are below 25 and looking to settle down with a girl forever, then good luck with that. My only suggestion would be to have fun and concentrate on your career. Girls will come and go, but your career won't. And once you are successful, multiply your success rate with girls by 2x That is soo damn true dude. In a world like this.. you need to work hard, get a good job and earn your livelihood. Ruining your future because of a girl is just stupid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pixeljunkie Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Yeah, I know its my problem. But i'm not really looking for that kind of relationship tbh yet. A kiss on the forehead would be wayyyy too serious imo; rather just have fun and leave. Thing is some girls go in as fun but then start thinking if this could be serious. Then I get scared and I guess in turn, they get scared too. Even in a relationship, I don't really wanna get to such a stage where I wanna comfort her. Ideally, when I settle down, I would wanna marry a lesbian. Then she won't be insecure and it would be a really nice and beautiful relationship. A kiss on the forehead is serious? Well i don't see it that way. Atleast i haven't give them that impression, till date. 'Peck on the forehead' sounds better These things happen bro. Eventually, either party starts getting paranoid and that's when things spiral. You might wanna think twice about marrying a lesbian. Never knew lesbians were insecure-proof Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Man In The Box Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Well they would be insecure about other girls right? And well, it would be nice to talk to some girls without having sex with them. So it would be a nice relationship imo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pixeljunkie Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Well they would be insecure about other girls right? And well, it would be nice to talk to some girls without having sex with them. So it would be a nice relationship imo. yeah yeah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rohan Seth Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 yeah yeah Not everyone here is tharki like you. (jk) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ash_ Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 (edited) Well they would be insecure about other girls right? And well, it would be nice to talk to some girls without having sex with them. So it would be a nice relationship imo. My ex-flatmate was a Lesbian. We used to head down to the uni bar quite a lot to play pool with a couple of other mates. She was awesome fun to hang out with. She'd make sexual remarks about random girls. It was the first time I'd met a lesbian, it was so much fun and awesome. She moved out after a month though Edited June 12, 2012 by gin-chan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pixeljunkie Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Not everyone here is tharki like you. (jk) Riggghhhttttt ....like you'd keep your fly zipped anymore than i could... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NightTroller Posted June 12, 2012 Report Share Posted June 12, 2012 Ideally, when I settle down, I would wanna marry a lesbian. Then she won't be insecure and it would be a really nice and beautiful relationship. She would be least interested in you ... why would you want to do that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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