Big Boss Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 Leave it to fate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
praveer Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 I have, I'm just bummed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pixeljunkie Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 (edited) To be fair the sign thing is bullshit. You don't have to be a flirt or make a girl blush to get her interested in you, at least not in the first meet. Why can't the first meet be purely about normal conversation to gauge each other's personality and interests, I wasn't nervous or feeling awkward at all when I was around speaking to her even though normally I am when I speak to girls I like. I didn't feel any connection or such with her, I just had a genuinely good time and I believe she did as well otherwise she wouldn't have hung around for so long and kept talking on all sorts of things. You can make a girl blush, or make her start playing with her hair in nervousness by simply giving her a small compliment, like I love your voice or I like how you've done your hair. But I don't want to do that at all, as it comes across as banal ! I feel like we've created this artificial standards for dating that's just absurd when we know that things work even when everything is kept simple and direct. Beside I think she could've done better than simply not responding at all if she didn't want anything, especially considering she asked me to contact her. Praveer...bro...you're giving way too much importance to what i had to say about signs. You may think its bull**** but women certainly don't. If you didn't feel any connection than why are you pursuing this so badly. I don't get it. I didn't indirectly imply that you need to seduce a women with empty compliments everytime to get her interested. I was talking about tell-tale signs that she might have shown, not yourself since you've made it pretty clear that you really like her. I know for a fact that abroad, a guy can approach a woman and ask her why she led him to believe that she was interested when she 'signalled'. Most women abroad won't openly admit that they did but they won't deny it either; in fact she'd have a hard time hiding her guilt. They aren't hypocritical when it comes to their feelings. I'm only trying to improve your chances in the future. Be patient. Edited November 7, 2013 by pixeljunkie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven Angel Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 So needy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pixeljunkie Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 So needy. He's just lonely... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
praveer Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 (edited) So needy. Excuse me? What's so needy about expecting basic courtesy ? Praveer...bro...you're giving way too much importance to what i had to say about signs. You may think its bull**** but women certainly don't. If you didn't feel any connection than why are you pursuing this so badly. I don't get it. I didn't indirectly imply that you need to seduce a women with empty compliments everytime to get her interested. I was talking about tell-tale signs that she might have shown, not yourself since you've made it pretty clear that you really like her. I know for a fact that abroad, a guy can approach a woman and ask her why she led him to believe that she was interested when she 'signalled'. Most women abroad won't openly admit that they did but they won't deny it either; in fact she'd have a hard time hiding her guilt. They aren't hypocritical when it comes to their feelings. I'm only trying to improve your chances in the future. Be patient. I needed some time together to see if there was a connection which is why I wanted to see her again because she seemed cool and interesting. As I said, I'm just disappointed to miss getting to know a geek. I acted normally and in a way like I would if I met any other cool person regardless of their gender, so just don't understand why this happened even though she herself asked me to contact her. Edited November 7, 2013 by praveer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Razpor Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 Excuse me? What's so needy about expecting basic courtesy ? I needed some time together to see if there was a connection which is why I wanted to see her again because she seemed cool and interesting. As I said, I'm just disappointed to miss getting to know a geek. I acted normally and in a way like I would if I met any other cool person regardless of their gender, so just don't understand why this happened even though she herself asked me to contact her. Maybe she is just busy being a bitch that is In any case man,just forget it ever happened and if i was in your place i would ignore her even if i see her the next time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Right Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 What happened to...frenchie? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wolfy among us Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 VIP? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
praveer Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 What happened to...frenchie? Nothing, same as ever. Speak to her regularly, seeing her next month. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dylanjosh Posted November 7, 2013 Report Share Posted November 7, 2013 Let it go man. And don't expect to bump into her again. For whatever reason she's made it clear she doesn't want anything to do with you. It will be just be awkward to talk to her again. Here's what I think happened though: She enjoyed the conversation with you, but realized you wanted more than friendship so she bailed. (Maybe she already has a bf, or maybe she met someone else later or she's happy single etc) Whatever the reason was, it was a bit rude of her to not to respond. Anyway let just let it go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defender487 Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 Dude did u pay the bill for the things she ordered while having that magical conversation ? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defender487 Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 Ty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wolfy among us Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 Good question Dude did u pay the bill for the things she ordered while having that magical conversation ? He just bought her one glass of wine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defender487 Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 Expensive one or standard dat too depends Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sameuun Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 must be an expensive one, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
praveer Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 Jeez it was just a glass of wine, must've cost maybe £3-£4 at most. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defender487 Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 then u must have fallen for the DOLL PLAY she wanted to clear her mind n emotions about something , that bothering her from quite few days u helped her with a glass wine that too was well executed next morning to her ,u r jus a page of magazine read n done and ur msg n call meant nothing to her . hindi may kehtay hain raat gayi baat gayi munna thori daer kay timepass ko bhi log aajkal nahi dekhte had so many convos none paid its price . play games n chill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
megzworld Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 Guys (and girls, ermm megz) I'll tell you what happened recently because this has me confused about female mentality. Sunny knows some bits about it but there was more to it. About two weeks ago I went to a pub with friends, one of my friends went out for a smoke and started chatting up this girl. After 10-15 minutes or so she came in and sat down on the table with us, I started talking to her and then found out that she loves playing video games, doing cosplays and that she'll be going to comic con next year, she told me that she'll be cosplaying as an Assassin and that she's eagerly waiting for Assassin's Creed: Black Flag. Then I found out that some of her life goals were exactly the same as mine, ie. visiting Antarctica and climbing Everest on an expedition, this gave us more to talk about. Since she was pretty well travelled and lived in many countries as in she was a Ukranian who grew up in Australia and had been living in UK for past 7-8 years, she had a very interesting outlook on things. Even better I found out that she had an interest in movies, politics and economics and since I love talking about those we spoke on that as well. We spoke for well over 2 hours straight and our friends seeing how both of us were too busy to pay attention to anything else decided to let us be and left. At the end of the night we exchanged numbers, she called a taxi for me and we gave each other a big hug, she told me she'll see me around and then we left. So far so good right? Nope Murphy's law strikes back ! I text her about 5-6 days later mentioning that it's me and I had a great time with her, and that I checked out that movie she mentioned which I found very interesting...I got absolutely no response to that. about 5 days after I sent that text (it was this Tuesday) I gave her a call which she didn't pick up either so I left a voice mail mentioning that it's Praveer and that I wanted an opinion of hers on something (the something being a silly question and an excuse for her to call me back)....and what do you know? no response ! I'm just confused as what could possibly have led to this? It's not like she was drunk, throughout the entire conversation she just had one glass of wine that I bought for her. And I doubt it's possible for us to accidentally bump into each other as she does Law and the law department is in an entirely different area of the campus than the Science department. I'm just incredibly bummed out because I thought it was going to go extremely nice and well considering how well that evening turned out to be. Hey Praveer, Missed you man! Thought you are finally out of the heartbreak zone. Anyway, first of all, really sorry to hear that you lost what looked like a 'god sent perfect match' for you. See we girls are simply complicated. And this girl as described by you seems to be a dude. May be she found you interesting to have a conversation with over free wine and that's that. Raat gayi baat gayi. If she is really that cool she will in fact won't think highly of you if you act or sound needy. Your heart would give you hazaar reasons to believe that she is not intentionally ignoring you but if she has not replied to your text, call and voicemail..it's obvious that she does not want to keep in touch. Take it in your stride. Leave her on her own. If you do see her again, say hi and act normal.. Not needy, not complaining , not weird.. Just Normal! Just chill! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
praveer Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 (edited) Hey Praveer, Missed you man! Thought you are finally out of the heartbreak zone. Anyway, first of all, really sorry to hear that you lost what looked like a 'god sent perfect match' for you. See we girls are simply complicated. And this girl as described by you seems to be a dude. May be she found you interesting to have a conversation with over free wine and that's that. Raat gayi baat gayi. If she is really that cool she will in fact won't think highly of you if you act or sound needy. Your heart would give you hazaar reasons to believe that she is not intentionally ignoring you but if she has not replied to your text, call and voicemail..it's obvious that she does not want to keep in touch. Take it in your stride. Leave her on her own. If you do see her again, say hi and act normal.. Not needy, not complaining , not weird.. Just Normal! Just chill! That would've been a good thing no? lol Anyway, I'll meet more women for sure, it's just that all of them are taken What do you mean when you say she seems to be like a dude? Edited November 9, 2013 by praveer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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