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On 1/4/2022 at 3:30 PM, KunjanPSD said:

If someone treats you like an option.

Remove yourself as an option.

The sooner you do it, the better.

No need to wait and see.

More like a case of a person use to  talk a lot with me

and now kinda acting as if don't exist.

 

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10 minutes ago, SRINI87 said:

More like a case of a person use to  talk a lot with me

and now kinda acting as if don't exist.

 

It's called ghosting. She was considering you as an option and found someone else or got found out.

Always remember,  act and behave like you are the prize. It always works and you are the one who has to finally start ghosting.

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1 hour ago, SRINI87 said:

More like a case of a person use to  talk a lot with me

and now kinda acting as if don't exist.

 

You gave her an option. 

Now stop giving it.

 

If the person texts then treat them as just another person, put your time as priority and let them worry if you are behaving differently.

 

I am sorry if I come across as crude but this is the best for you.

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16 hours ago, Big Boss said:

It's called ghosting. She was considering you as an option and found someone else or got found out.

Always remember,  act and behave like you are the prize. It always works and you are the one who has to finally start ghosting.

 

15 hours ago, KunjanPSD said:

You gave her an option. 

Now stop giving it.

 

If the person texts then treat them as just another person, put your time as priority and let them worry if you are behaving differently.

 

I am sorry if I come across as crude but this is the best for you.

 

I'll do this

Gotta flip  the switch

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2 hours ago, niks_flashbullet said:

You already got excellent advice above, read the book "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi (must read for every man).

It should be THE book to read by every man, especially the one in early 20s or late teens.

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4 hours ago, SRINI87 said:

I'll do this

Gotta flip  the switch

Bro, this won't be this easy. Won't be a flip.

Every time you receive that text, it will be difficult to not reply back.

You will try to seem busy and skip being found online.

 

But you got to stay online, you gotta read and ignore, you gotta talk to other people and let this person know that you got more in life than just this.

 

You don't need to make it seem that something changed outright.

Just treat the person like just another friend. Reply back, make your boundaries as you see fit.

 

I hope it is not that difficult and I wish you luck. Remember your worth.

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5 hours ago, SRINI87 said:

 

 

I'll do this

Gotta flip  the switch

 

37 minutes ago, KunjanPSD said:

Bro, this won't be this easy. Won't be a flip.

Every time you receive that text, it will be difficult to not reply back.

You will try to seem busy and skip being found online.

 

But you got to stay online, you gotta read and ignore, you gotta talk to other people and let this person know that you got more in life than just this.

 

You don't need to make it seem that something changed outright.

Just treat the person like just another friend. Reply back, make your boundaries as you see fit.

 

I hope it is not that difficult and I wish you luck. Remember your worth.

 

In the initial days, you'll have to be like this -

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But after sometime, you'll be like this -

 

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20 hours ago, KunjanPSD said:

Bro, this won't be this easy. Won't be a flip.

Every time you receive that text, it will be difficult to not reply back.

You will try to seem busy and skip being found online.

 

But you got to stay online, you gotta read and ignore, you gotta talk to other people and let this person know that you got more in life than just this.

 

You don't need to make it seem that something changed outright.

Just treat the person like just another friend. Reply back, make your boundaries as you see fit.

 

I hope it is not that difficult and I wish you luck. Remember your worth.

I won't do it immediately

it won't be easy but yeah

 

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I fell for a girl as well last year in the first few days itself of seeing her,

Heart broken :(

^ I knew ultimately yehi hoga isliye I didn't approach but she did and then friend zoned me (which is still fine)

 

 

But the problem is that I am still hanging in and can't let go and that friendship is also very special to me.

 

any chance of this thread reaching her :p 

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26 minutes ago, GunnerY2J said:

I fell for a girl as well last year in the first few days itself of seeing her,

Heart broken :(

^ I knew ultimately yehi hoga isliye I didn't approach but she did and then friend zoned me (which is still fine)

 

 

But the problem is that I am still hanging in and can't let go and that friendship is also very special to me.

 

any chance of this thread reaching her :p 

You need turnover.

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19 hours ago, GunnerY2J said:

I fell for a girl as well last year in the first few days itself of seeing her,

Heart broken :(

^ I knew ultimately yehi hoga isliye I didn't approach but she did and then friend zoned me (which is still fine)

 

 

But the problem is that I am still hanging in and can't let go and that friendship is also very special to me.

 

No it's not fine and never will be . Like you said are still hoping even though it's extremely unlikely that it will ever happen as you have been friend zoned. 

If the friendship is special to you that you don't want to lose it - you need to convince yourself that you are only going to be a friend . Otherwise staying friends will only cause you more pain and nothing else. 

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On 1/8/2022 at 3:12 PM, SRINI87 said:

I won't do it immediately

it won't be easy but yeah

 

It's as easy or as difficult as you want it to be . It's all about your mindset . Also Human brain doesn't understand negative things that well as it does positive things .

If you focus on ' Avoiding her ' then all your mind would do initially is bombard you with thoughts about her . Making it more difficult .

While if you focus on things which can keep you busy and excited so that you don't have much time to think about her - then it will be easier . As your mind would be occupied in other things.  

Again it's not that easy but not that difficult either .

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3 hours ago, Krazyniks said:

No it's not fine and never will be . Like you said are still hoping even though it's extremely unlikely that it will ever happen as you have been friend zoned. 

If the friendship is special to you that you don't want to lose it - you need to convince yourself that you are only going to be a friend . Otherwise staying friends will only cause you more pain and nothing else. 

So what to do ?

There will be pain both ways, maybe more if I stop hoping.

Edit Don't know, Yes, hope sucks.

Need to let her go, Yes.

But sucks either way.

 

 

 

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47 minutes ago, GunnerY2J said:

So what to do ?

There will be pain both ways, maybe more if I stop hoping.

Edit Don't know, Yes, hope sucks.

Need to let her go, Yes.

But sucks either way.

 

 

 

 

There's no pain both ways.

 

You got friendzoned and really value your friendship with her. But does she feel the same??

 

Does she value your friendship as much as you do hers.

 

Beings friends with someone you had feelings for can be incredibly difficult.

Not many can keep it platonic.

 

Don't be a ' free food or acha sun mera ek kaam karega pls' friend in anyone's contact list.

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