Big Boss Posted January 6, 2022 Report Share Posted January 6, 2022 10 minutes ago, SRINI87 said: More like a case of a person use to talk a lot with me and now kinda acting as if don't exist. It's called ghosting. She was considering you as an option and found someone else or got found out. Always remember, act and behave like you are the prize. It always works and you are the one who has to finally start ghosting. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KunjanPSD Posted January 6, 2022 Report Share Posted January 6, 2022 1 hour ago, SRINI87 said: More like a case of a person use to talk a lot with me and now kinda acting as if don't exist. You gave her an option. Now stop giving it. If the person texts then treat them as just another person, put your time as priority and let them worry if you are behaving differently. I am sorry if I come across as crude but this is the best for you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SRINI87 Posted January 7, 2022 Report Share Posted January 7, 2022 16 hours ago, Big Boss said: It's called ghosting. She was considering you as an option and found someone else or got found out. Always remember, act and behave like you are the prize. It always works and you are the one who has to finally start ghosting. 15 hours ago, KunjanPSD said: You gave her an option. Now stop giving it. If the person texts then treat them as just another person, put your time as priority and let them worry if you are behaving differently. I am sorry if I come across as crude but this is the best for you. I'll do this Gotta flip the switch 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
niks_flashbullet Posted January 7, 2022 Report Share Posted January 7, 2022 1 hour ago, SRINI87 said: I'll do this Gotta flip the switch You already got excellent advice above, read the book "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi (must read for every man). 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Boss Posted January 7, 2022 Report Share Posted January 7, 2022 2 hours ago, niks_flashbullet said: You already got excellent advice above, read the book "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi (must read for every man). It should be THE book to read by every man, especially the one in early 20s or late teens. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KunjanPSD Posted January 7, 2022 Report Share Posted January 7, 2022 4 hours ago, SRINI87 said: I'll do this Gotta flip the switch Bro, this won't be this easy. Won't be a flip. Every time you receive that text, it will be difficult to not reply back. You will try to seem busy and skip being found online. But you got to stay online, you gotta read and ignore, you gotta talk to other people and let this person know that you got more in life than just this. You don't need to make it seem that something changed outright. Just treat the person like just another friend. Reply back, make your boundaries as you see fit. I hope it is not that difficult and I wish you luck. Remember your worth. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radicaldude Posted January 7, 2022 Report Share Posted January 7, 2022 The first step to lead a happy and fulfilling life- quit simping. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
him2anshu Posted January 7, 2022 Report Share Posted January 7, 2022 5 hours ago, SRINI87 said: I'll do this Gotta flip the switch 37 minutes ago, KunjanPSD said: Bro, this won't be this easy. Won't be a flip. Every time you receive that text, it will be difficult to not reply back. You will try to seem busy and skip being found online. But you got to stay online, you gotta read and ignore, you gotta talk to other people and let this person know that you got more in life than just this. You don't need to make it seem that something changed outright. Just treat the person like just another friend. Reply back, make your boundaries as you see fit. I hope it is not that difficult and I wish you luck. Remember your worth. In the initial days, you'll have to be like this - But after sometime, you'll be like this - 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven Angel Posted January 7, 2022 Report Share Posted January 7, 2022 Thread is going so slow.. Page 296 have comments from 2016. Is it that guys are getting less heartbreaks or they don't want to open up about it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGothamChampion Posted January 7, 2022 Report Share Posted January 7, 2022 3 hours ago, Heaven Angel said: Thread is going so slow.. Page 296 have comments from 2016. Is it that guys are getting less heartbreaks or they don't want to open up about it? I guess most of the senior members are married now. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SRINI87 Posted January 8, 2022 Report Share Posted January 8, 2022 22 hours ago, niks_flashbullet said: You already got excellent advice above, read the book "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi (must read for every man). Will check it out 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SRINI87 Posted January 8, 2022 Report Share Posted January 8, 2022 20 hours ago, KunjanPSD said: Bro, this won't be this easy. Won't be a flip. Every time you receive that text, it will be difficult to not reply back. You will try to seem busy and skip being found online. But you got to stay online, you gotta read and ignore, you gotta talk to other people and let this person know that you got more in life than just this. You don't need to make it seem that something changed outright. Just treat the person like just another friend. Reply back, make your boundaries as you see fit. I hope it is not that difficult and I wish you luck. Remember your worth. I won't do it immediately it won't be easy but yeah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GunnerY2J Posted January 12, 2022 Report Share Posted January 12, 2022 (edited) I fell for a girl as well last year in the first few days itself of seeing her, Heart broken ^ I knew ultimately yehi hoga isliye I didn't approach but she did and then friend zoned me (which is still fine) But the problem is that I am still hanging in and can't let go and that friendship is also very special to me. any chance of this thread reaching her :p Edited January 12, 2022 by GunnerY2J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KunjanPSD Posted January 12, 2022 Report Share Posted January 12, 2022 26 minutes ago, GunnerY2J said: I fell for a girl as well last year in the first few days itself of seeing her, Heart broken ^ I knew ultimately yehi hoga isliye I didn't approach but she did and then friend zoned me (which is still fine) But the problem is that I am still hanging in and can't let go and that friendship is also very special to me. any chance of this thread reaching her :p You need turnover. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GunnerY2J Posted January 12, 2022 Report Share Posted January 12, 2022 4 minutes ago, KunjanPSD said: You need turnover. What is turnover ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krazyniks Posted January 13, 2022 Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 19 hours ago, GunnerY2J said: I fell for a girl as well last year in the first few days itself of seeing her, Heart broken ^ I knew ultimately yehi hoga isliye I didn't approach but she did and then friend zoned me (which is still fine) But the problem is that I am still hanging in and can't let go and that friendship is also very special to me. No it's not fine and never will be . Like you said are still hoping even though it's extremely unlikely that it will ever happen as you have been friend zoned. If the friendship is special to you that you don't want to lose it - you need to convince yourself that you are only going to be a friend . Otherwise staying friends will only cause you more pain and nothing else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krazyniks Posted January 13, 2022 Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 On 1/8/2022 at 3:12 PM, SRINI87 said: I won't do it immediately it won't be easy but yeah It's as easy or as difficult as you want it to be . It's all about your mindset . Also Human brain doesn't understand negative things that well as it does positive things . If you focus on ' Avoiding her ' then all your mind would do initially is bombard you with thoughts about her . Making it more difficult . While if you focus on things which can keep you busy and excited so that you don't have much time to think about her - then it will be easier . As your mind would be occupied in other things. Again it's not that easy but not that difficult either . 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GunnerY2J Posted January 13, 2022 Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 (edited) 3 hours ago, Krazyniks said: No it's not fine and never will be . Like you said are still hoping even though it's extremely unlikely that it will ever happen as you have been friend zoned. If the friendship is special to you that you don't want to lose it - you need to convince yourself that you are only going to be a friend . Otherwise staying friends will only cause you more pain and nothing else. So what to do ? There will be pain both ways, maybe more if I stop hoping. Edit : Don't know, Yes, hope sucks. Need to let her go, Yes. But sucks either way. Edited January 13, 2022 by GunnerY2J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snake Posted January 13, 2022 Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 47 minutes ago, GunnerY2J said: So what to do ? There will be pain both ways, maybe more if I stop hoping. Edit : Don't know, Yes, hope sucks. Need to let her go, Yes. But sucks either way. There's no pain both ways. You got friendzoned and really value your friendship with her. But does she feel the same?? Does she value your friendship as much as you do hers. Beings friends with someone you had feelings for can be incredibly difficult. Not many can keep it platonic. Don't be a ' free food or acha sun mera ek kaam karega pls' friend in anyone's contact list. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GunnerY2J Posted January 13, 2022 Report Share Posted January 13, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, Snake said: There's no pain both ways. You got friendzoned and really value your friendship with her. But does she feel the same?? Does she value your friendship as much as you do hers. Beings friends with someone you had feelings for can be incredibly difficult. Not many can keep it platonic. Don't be a ' free food or acha sun mera ek kaam karega pls' friend in anyone's contact list. Aise friendship nahi hai, kafi zyada Ajeeb hai. I'm never going to be an errand boy for sure. Friend bi hu ki nahi samjh nahi aata, Waise I am not attracted to her in a physical or sexual way, I just value friendship too much and think about her a lot (maybe because I have no one else) We can be really heartbroken in friendship as well ? Still the main thing that hurts is friendship level is not increasing. sometimes lagta hai close hai, sometimes stranger. We haven't even went out once :p She says no to everything (did ask me for a 20 day travel trip though to which I couldn't go due to budget) (Gym me milti hai roz- she came up to me first telling i have really great stamina, asked for my number first and then stopped the interest, maybe she does that to many) We don't even talk much when face to face, even I don't say much. but it's been over a year, the thing is we are both very awkward,sad and introverted people, I relate to her a lot in this way. Feeling I overshared, private rahega kya yeh yaha. Please don't quote, do type, I'll read (I just want this text to be a bit behind in pages) Edited January 13, 2022 by GunnerY2J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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